Upset And ScaredFeelingsUpset And Scared<div class="ExternalClass453E2C02F90B4FC0B2E2A1619C9815DA"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Hi, I'm not sure what to do its two problems, the last week I have been upset thinking about my best friend. She passed away two years ago and I still have her number in my phone. She died from cancer and my sister, who is older than me, was asking me why do I still have her number in my phone. My sister said that something is wrong with me for keeping it this long, I feel when I delete it she is gone forever. I hope this doesn't make me sound horrible. My second problem is something horrible happened to my father and I got really scared and I didn't know if the hospital was going to be able to save him. It took a while (over 9 hours) in surgery to help him. He's better now with some problems. He can't really walk now. I have started hiding food secretly in my room and I binge on it when everyone is gone or asleep. And I don't know what to do or stop. I am sorry for telling you about both of them I didn't know where else to go. When you have time can you please help me if you can?  </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass5674A5FADFA646819E3C3F5D6D2A22DF"><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We are so glad that you  reached out for help today.  Don't feel like you have to apologize for telling us your problems, that is exactly what we are here for! We want to be able to support you through what sounds like a tough time. We are sorry for the loss of your friend, it seems like you two were very close.  It makes sense why you have kept her number in your phone.  Having her number in your phone is a symbol to you that there is part of her that is still there.  Grief over losing a loved one takes time and if you are not ready to delete her number, that is okay, take your time.  Below are links that talk about the stages of grief and ways to cope with it:</span></p><p> <a href="/Pages/4-Ways-To-Ease-Grief.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/4-Ways-To-Ease-Grief.aspx</span></a></p><p> <a href="/Pages/tip-5-stages-of-grief.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-5-stages-of-grief.aspx</span></a></p><p> <a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</span></a></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">The situation with your father also sounds very stressful.  It can be scary when the ones we love are hurt and it is unclear if they will be okay.  It sounds like there are still some struggles for your father, but try to focus on the fact that you still have your father and you can help support him through his recovery.  It might help to have a conversation with him about how it made you feel when he went into surgery.  He may be able to help ease your mind by telling you how he feels now.  </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">With everything that is going on it is understandable that  you are stressed and binge eating is a common way of coping with stress.  Binge eating, however, is not the healthiest way to cope.  There are coping skills listed above in the link for the 99 coping skills tip page that could help you cope with this stress more positively.  Journaling is often a good way to process your feelings and you can even write letters to parents or friends to let them know how you are feeling. </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We also have counselors that you can speak to 24/7 who can provide you emotional support and ideas on how to continue to cope positively.  You can call, text or chat.<br></span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Thank you so much for taking this step for yourself. We are here for you, and we hope you reach out for more support!</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Sincerely,</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Jessica, Counselor</span><br></p></div>14

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