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Addiction

Scared To Show My Cuts To My Mother

<div class="ExternalClass6EDC6E692DBE491980A229930D7227C2">I'm cutting, and starving myself. I hate my body, and I'm bullied for it. I'm scared to talk to my family about it cause I believe if I show my mother my cuts she will hate me. </div>

<div class="ExternalClassC7F466C9B5C94C2EBBF3A7B09594C0D4"><div><div class="ExternalClass6EDC6E692DBE491980A229930D7227C2">Thanks for reaching out through Your Life Your Voice today. It sounds as though you are going through a difficult time. Having issues with self-harming can be overwhelming. Cutting is often a sign of deeper issues. Many people turn to cutting and not eating to find some sense of control in their lives. They feel that if they can just control these things in their life they will feel better because although they are not able to control other areas in their life, at least they are able to control the things that they do to themselves. Even though starts as a way to help them to deal with what is going on, it actually starts to cause problems of it's own. The cutting and starving take over and become overwhelming and in many cases addictive. This is the point were you are now. This is why it is so important to get help. We are concerned for you. It can be scary to talk to a parent; however, we encourage you to communicate your feelings with your parents so that they can help you cope with your current feelings. You are right, your mom's initial reaction might be scared-mad. It is normal for a parent to feel scared about what their child is doing to themselves and to react in a way that comes across as anger. You are wise in thinking this through before talking to your mom. We have some ideas of how to neutralize the situation so you can have a good talk about what you are struggling with: <a href="/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx</a> <a href="/Pages/tip-letter-to-your-parents.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-letter-to-your-parents.aspx</a> If you feel as though you cannot keep yourself safe from self-harming, we encourage you to call our Hotline, and talk with one of our counselors. We are here to help you and want to talk with you about this. It’s important that you utilize healthy coping skills to cope with this emotional stress. Self-harm is a negative coping skill. It may have temporarily caused a sense of relief, but it will not fix or help the underlying issue that has caused you to want to self-harm. As you have seen, it also can create more problems. Try some healthy coping skills to replace the negative once. This could be doing activities you enjoy, writing in a journal, listening to music, or calling to talk with someone at our hotline. We have provided a link to more coping skills ideas and encourage you to check them out. It can take time to find the right coping skill for you and it will not happen right away. The important thing is that you are trying new things. Here is those links: <a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</a> <a href="/Pages/tip-choosing-the-right-coping-skill.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-choosing-the-right-coping-skill.aspx</a> <a href="/Pages/tip-coping-skills.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-coping-skills.aspx</a> We are here to talk with you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can also text or chat with a crisis counselor if you prefer through <a href="/">www.yourlifeyourvoice.org</a>. Let us know if you would like to talk, Nicole, Counselor </div></div> </div>

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