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My Parents Split UpFamilyMy Parents Split Up<div class="ExternalClass5EC31F51C1674181ADCED20CEB5315E4"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">My parents have split up and like I am honestly still getting used to it. They are still good friends, but they still bicker back and forth sometimes and it's really rough. I cannot do anything about it, I just wanna stay out of it, and let them sort things out. I would like advice on like what can I do when my parents bicker back and forth. </span></p></div><div class="ExternalClassA1D6360ADB5444B79CB50D8B2503DFB7"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We are so glad you are reaching out to us.  It is good to talk to someone about situations like this.  It can't be easy, going through this tough time.  It sounds like you really care about your relationship with your parents and this is having an impact on you.  Unfortunately this situation is not uncommon.  There are a lot of relationships and marriages that go through separations and divorces.  Too often the children feel that they are in the middle of the fights.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We have some advice that works for talking to your parents about anything.  To start, let your parents know how this is impacting you.  Choosing a time and place is very important.  You can decide if you are more comfortable addressing it with your parents during the bickering or waiting until it is over.  Sometimes catching it in the moment and letting them know that it makes you feel sad and frustrated is powerful.  They will see that if they are going to argue they should do it in private.  The other option is waiting until it is over and pulling each parent aside individually and talking to them about it.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Really be open with them about your feelings.  Remind them that you love them both and you do not want to feel that you are in the middle of their disagreements.  You may need to follow up with your parents a day or two after you have this conversation and let them know if you feel it has gotten better, stayed the same, or gotten worse, and then address it again.  We have a tip that we would like you to review that explains this in detail:   </span><a href="/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx</span></a><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style=""> ​</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">It takes courage and bravery to have these bold conversations but it is worth it.  You are worth it!  We hope you will reach out to us again if you need anything else.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">C-crisis counselor</span></p></div>15

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