My Family Is Always Mad At MeFamilyMy Family Is Always Mad At Me<div class="ExternalClassD159AE68AC8343EF9555AC18DED13C30"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Hello I feel like my family members are always mad or annoyed at me. If I don't respond to something the second after they are ask, they call me rude. They make feel like I'm rude and ungrateful. This doesn't help with my self esteem since I already think bad things about my self, those qualities being affirmed to me doesn't help at all. I don't know how to handle this. </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass9C1DA26631C746E0890700890FA01E40"><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Right now it appears that there is some conflict with your family members, and they are misinterpreting your actions.  One thing that you can do is to try to talk to your family members and try to discuss how you are feeling when they call you rude.  Pick a time when things are quiet and calmly discuss the situation.  Let them know how hurtful it is when they call you names, and ask them to stop doing this to you.  </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Also, it may be helpful to evaluate your interactions with your family members.  Ask yourself if you are being slow to respond, are you doing it intentionally?  Are you being distracted by something (such as video games, social media) thus, making your response slower?  You may want to challenge yourself to respond more quickly in order to be more responsive to family members, to improve family relationships, and to avoid conflict.  If you are going to respond anyway, would it take any more effort for you to respond a little more quickly?  That will be a decision that you will have to make.  </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">You indicate that you struggle with self-esteem.  There are some things that you can do to work on your self-esteem.  When you start to have negative  thoughts about yourself try to turn those negative thoughts around.  If you are not able to do this on your own, then there is an exercise that you can do that will assist you to do this.  You can make a list of positive things about you and write them down.  Also try to recall the positive things that other people have said about you and put those on the list.   </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">When you start to have negative thoughts about yourself, then pull out the list and read to yourself the list.  It may take some time, but eventually your negative thought patterns will be turned around.  Ultimately the way to turn your negative thoughts around is to learn to love yourself.  Attached are some tips from </span> <a href="/"> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">www.yourlifeyourvoice.org</span></a><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">  that may be helpful: </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4"> </span><a href="/SitePages/tips/tip-the-mirror-rule.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/SitePages/tips/tip-the-mirror-rule.aspx</span></a></p><p> <a href="/SitePages/tips/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/SitePages/tips/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx</span></a></p><p> <a href="/sitepages/tips/tip-your-self-esteem.aspx"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/sitepages/tips/tip-your-self-esteem.aspx</span></a><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">.  </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Please take care and let us know how you are doing.</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Nancy, Counselor</span><br></p></div>15

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