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Feelings

Unresolvable Mess

<div class="ExternalClass84353C81EE6B49A98CB78F7B73AA3917">I haven't been diagnosed with depression so I don't want to assume that's what I'm feeling. But recently I tried to leave a very unhealthy relationship only to renter it. And on top of that I am overwhelmed with work and school and financial issues. I've had no motivation to go about my day or do what I enjoy doing. I can barely make it to class let alone sit through it. I can't focus and I haven't been eating. I get sick every week from stress and I have had thoughts of hurting myself. I have attempted the coping skills you have listed on your site but I haven't found satisfaction in them or in just what I do on a daily basis. I feel very hopeless and withdrawn from my loved ones but they don't believe mental health issues exist so I cant turn to them about this. </div>

<div class="ExternalClass65059F3D22A842A08A0B68BC6A958980"><div><div class="ExternalClass84353C81EE6B49A98CB78F7B73AA3917">We are glad you are reaching out today. It is brave and wise to reach out when you feel you are struggling. You conveyed a sense of feeling very overwhelmed in your email, so many things going on, yet not feeling in control of anything. All of the issues seem to merge together and create an “unresolvable mess”, creating such a heavy burden it is hard to feel motivated to do anything. At this point, take a step back. List each area of your life that you feel is struggling on a piece of paper or index card. Then, look at one card at a time. Put the others in a drawer. Understand that we may not be able to totally resolve the issue, yet give it some thought, decide what the next step might be and then do it. Put that card in the drawer and pull out the next one. The key here is to break the “unresolvable mess” into smaller workable pieces. You can also do this with your school work, especially if you are behind. Focus, get in the flow on one thing at a time. This will also help to identify individual changes you need to make such as setting new boundaries with your unhealthy relationship. Keep working at it, accept it is a process, not an immediate fix. Strive for improvement, not perfection. As improvement takes place, the burden gets lighter and lighter. Stay in touch. Sincerely, Larry – Counselor </div></div> </div>

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