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Why Did My Parents Get Divorced?

<div class="ExternalClass41596286FFE6416382121F2BECDCCDE1">When I was around 6-8 months old, my parents made the decision to start the divorce process. They started with a trial separation for about 6 months. Then they made a deal to live in the same house but different rooms. Then when I was about 1.5 then got the divorce. I've lived with them having 50/50 custody of me and have gone back and forth between the two houses. I love my step parents, half siblings, and parents, but I've struggled with much of it too. One of the things is I've never really been told why they got a divorce. The reason I am emailing you is because from the little info I've heard, I've thought up more stories in my head that I'm not sure are correct (I really hope they aren't). I really want to ask them why they got a divorce, but no matter how much googling I do, I just can't find any advice. Do you have any advice on asking them how they got divorced without offending them. I have made sure that I am emotionally ready to hear the full truth and would really like some advice. Thanks! </div>

<div class="ExternalClassD2CA8359389F4528BA520CE91350EDE5"><div><div class="ExternalClass41596286FFE6416382121F2BECDCCDE1">You have taken on so much pain and sounds like anxiety about your parent’s divorce. We can understand you wanting to know the reason and can appreciate your sense of needing that information to move forward. You feel you are emotionally ready and that is good. No matter what they say, you will most likely have questions so be ready. We don’t think you will offend your parents by asking them why they made this decision. They might seem confused or worried about why you are asking but nonetheless, all you can do is come out and ask. Find a time to sit and talk with them together or alone with one at a time. You can just ask the question and let them know you think about it and just need to hear it from them. Letting them know you struggle a little too. Let them help you so that you can move forward and not spend any more time guessing and thinking about it so often. These articles might help: <a href="/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx</a> <a href="/Pages/tip-talking-to-parents-about-their-divorce.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-talking-to-parents-about-their-divorce.aspx</a> Our counselors are here to talk with you anytime. Call, email, chat or text. You don’t have to process this by yourself. You’re not alone! Good luck, Naina, counselor </div></div> </div>

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