My Sister Is CuttingFamilyMy Sister Is Cutting<div class="ExternalClassFC66980B88104CB19F93859146005D7A"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>Hello, I just found out my 13 year old sister is cutting. I want to help her but I don't know how. My parents know, I've told the school counselors and they know and have talked to my parents about it. The thing is that my sister doesn't want help. When anyone tries talking to her about it she refuses. We have tried sending her to a counselor for help but she hates going and doesn't​ say anything to the lady. I don't know what to do! I really want to help but it seems like there is nothing we can do at this point. There has to be something though. What can I do? How can I talk to her about it? How can I make her understand how bad it is? How can I sympathize with her? How can I convince her to get help? </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClassF4553AE52CC6404C9000F3D3F6D82D8B"><div><div class="ExternalClassFC66980B88104CB19F93859146005D7A"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We are glad you have discovered our website and are reaching out today.  We understand your concern.  Cutting can be a coping skill for stress and emotions that are not expressed, instead they are held or stuffed inside.  Eventually, the pressure builds inside to the point where a release of some sort is necessary.  For some people, cutting seems to offer that sense of relief for a short period of time.  There are healthy coping skills that may offer relief in her situation.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Offer this site to her </span><span>as a way to visit with counselors and express herself.  We</span><span> want you to k</span><span>now we are here for both of you</span><span>.  Try</span><span> </span><span>reviewing the articles under the Tips section on the website, including “99 coping skills”.   The Tips link is at the top of the homepage.</span><span><br></span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>When you are around your sister, try to remain calm.  Be empathetic and let her know she is safe.  Encourage her to express her feelings whether they are anger, sadness, frustration or anything else.  Praise her for expressing herself.  Try not to judge her emotions.  Offer her your support.  Try to be a model for her.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>You are being a great sister by looking for help for sister.  She is lucky to have such a caring sister by her side during this difficult time in her life.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><font face="calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">We are here if either of you would like to talk - 1-800-448-3000.</span></font></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Sincerely,</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Larry – Counselor</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>16

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