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Working On Getting Along Better

<div class="ExternalClass0A8D9A76DED6412DA0D29AE2953606BD"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">I'm working on getting along better with my dad, but its really hard. I visit him most weekends and by the day I am leaving he's annoyed with me and angry. I feel like we should be spending our time enjoying each other instead of always avoiding each other or trying not annoy the other person. It actually has started to give me a lot of anxiety about visiting him and a few times I have lied to get out of it and he caught me. That hurt him and I felt very bad about it. He is in counseling for a lot of things and I’m sure whatever he's struggling with he's somehow taking out on me. I don't blame him, but it's not a good feeling. I think what I can do is just try to be cleaner and less “repulsive” when I am at his house. Other than that I’m not sure what I can do. I still don't think I’m that bad because my mom would be on my case as well.  </span></p></div>

<div class="ExternalClass3546738A79E1424F96CC2038A8ECD584"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Great to hear that you are trying to get along better with your dad.  Let him know your feelings.  That way he can understand that you don't like feeling annoyed towards him.  Find out what is really annoying him and show empathy towards whatever is annoying him.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We agree with you, keep trying your best, like you said: "to be cleaner and less "repulsive".  When you are with him, try to do active things that are not that difficult for him.  Possibly things like, taking a short walk, play cards or chess; that might help both of you to be more at ease with each other.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Sometimes it's hard to know how other people feel or think; however, don't be afraid to ask him why he is being annoyed or angry.  For example, "Dad, you seem to be annoyed. Did something happen today that annoyed you?" or "Dad, you look like you are angry, want to talk about it?" or, "Dad, are you angry about something?".  Communication is very important at all times, it avoids feelings of hurt or feelings of not wanting to visit anymore.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We look forward to hearing back from you again.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Take care and keep safe,</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Nicole, Counselor</span></p></div>

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