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<div class="ExternalClass781DA69587EA477A8E975662F1B6B325">My parents were emotionally and verbally abusive from a young age. They've gotten better over time but I recently made a careless mistake and charged about $2000 to their credit card. They are preventing me from going to my only safe spaces (conventions) despite me paying for them myself and them having to put no money put into it. I understand punishments but everyone I've talked to said this is too far and every time I try to reach a compromise with them my mom tells me I'm manipulative. Please help. I had to sleep in my car last night because I realized how much I wanted to hurt myself with items in my house. </div>

<div class="ExternalClass0A51C3BEE7164B20B65930C0AFE60EA8"><div style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(89, 89, 89);">We are sorry that you are struggling with your emotions at this time. When you say that you feel like hurting yourself, are you talking about cutting or something to cause yourself bodily harm? Have you felt this way before and told anyone about it? We want to make sure you are safe and not considering ending your life. If you are feeling this way because of the trust you have lost with your parents, believe me, making mistakes is a part of growing up. However the $2000 worth of charges on their credit card is something that is considered unlawful and the amount could get you into serious trouble if your parents chose to report it to the police. We recommend that you focus on rebuilding trust with your parents. You can do that by making arrangements to pay back the money and beginning to do that immediately. Confide in them with how you are feeling sorry and want to do whatever you can to re-build trust. Stay involved with your family rather than being in your room alone or away from them. Offer to help with things around the house without being asked. Strive to follow rules and meet their expectations. Join in family activities and stick close to home. We don't know what type of conventions you are referring to but it is not likely you have rebuilt enough trust that your parents can feel confident that you will make good decisions while away from home. Learn from this and know that as an adult your consequences would be much greater if you repeat such an action with someone's credit card without their permission. Sincerely, Pat, Counselor </div> </div>

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