Arguing With MomFamilyArguing With Mom<div class="ExternalClass9C281AD9DECB45B793F5B535B5532821"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Hello. My mom and I have been arguing yesterday and today over 2 events, both of which are at the same time. One is with friends, the other my grandparents. I was vaguely told of the one with my grandparents a few months ago, but never given a date, time or place. I scheduled a party with my friends a week ago for today (the day both events are on). Sadly I can’t go because my grandparents event has to take priority over my friend’s. I’m sad that I can’t go to the one with my friends since it will probably be more fun than the one with my grandparents, but my mom has gotten very angry that I haven’t just sucked it up and continued as normal because I’m missing the party I helped plan and have talked about for about one and a half weeks. I’ve been in my room most of the day with my mom (and Dad) telling me I made this bigger than it needed to be and I should just get over it because they miss things they want to do all the time. Am I being really selfish and sound like a bratty person, or do I have a legitimate reason? I came here for a non-biased viewpoint.  </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass8EBFDCE3E0F247F6B6242FAC5C3EE423"><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">First of all, we just want to thank you for reaching out for some support tonight. It sounds like you are in a pretty difficult situation. There are a couple of things going on in this situation that may be helpful to focus on.</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">It seems like your parents are very family-oriented, which may be why your parents believe that it is not such a big deal to miss your party. Since they are used to making family a priority, they assumed that you make it an obvious priority as well. However, it is very understandable that you are upset with the situation. You put a lot of time and preparation into the party and you want to be able to enjoy something that you put so much work into.</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Something else that may be beneficial is to see if there could be a compromise. Maybe discuss with your parents the time that you are going to do something. If your grandparents live in the same area, maybe you could ask your parents if you could go to part of the event with your grandparents and part of the event with your friends. That way you are still making family a priority while getting to enjoy some time with your friends as well.</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We understand that this is a very complicated situation, but unfortunately in life it is necessary to have to prioritize things. Even though it is not the decision you want to make, you are aware that it would be wrong to miss a family event. It is important to have a calm conversation with your parents when dealing with these situations in the future so that they are more receptive to compromising. We hope this information has helped and thank you again for reaching out for support. Have a great rest of your night!</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Sincerely,</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Derek, Counselor</span><br></p></div>12

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