Staying At Two HousesFamilyStaying At Two Houses<div class="ExternalClassCBD3B149C1A64ABE9461FC86FA460BDC"><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Okay I need some advice. My parents have been split up about almost 2 years now, and it has been a little different but my parents still talk and get along with each other pretty good. I feel I just cannot adjust to staying at 2 houses, and I feel I stay at my moms more than my dads all of the time. I can stay at my dads fine, but I don't feel the same way as if I were at my moms. I mean I am thankful to be able to stay at both parents houses, but is this feeling of me not still being adjusted to staying at my dads normal? Please give me advice on how to like deal with this. </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">​</span></p></div><div class="ExternalClassD94570D94C5042E2AA87262A6EA1D91E"><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">It's not easy to live in two separate homes. Since you are living more at your mother's house, it is natural to feel a little less comfortable in your father's house. It also stands to reason that you may have more of your personal possessions at your mom's house. If this is the case, you may feel more like a visitor in your father's home instead of your father's home also being your house. </span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">If you haven't done this already, try talking to your father to see if you can fix up your room so that is more yours. If possible, ask him if you can paint it in your favorite color, and purchase accessories that make the room yours. The other thing that you can do is to bring things from your room in your mother's home to your room in your father's home. Having more of your personal possessions will help it feel more like home. If you are used to having friends over at your mother's house, arrange to have friends over at your father's home. The more that you make your living situation similar to your mother's home, the more comfortable you will be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">It appears that you have a good relationship with your parents and that your parents have done a good job of communicating with each other. If you are comfortable talking about your feelings you can talk to them about how you are feeling. If they are aware that you are still struggling with the living arrangement, they may be able to help you work through these feelings, and provide you with additional support. </span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Take care,</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p></div>16

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