| Don't Want To Hurt My Dad | Family | Don't Want To Hurt My Dad | <div class="ExternalClassE89266F3B897477BA96DDAA42EB5011A"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>I'm having a lot of
suicidal thoughts right now. I had an insanely difficult conversation with my
dad last night, and this morning I started packing to move in with my mom. He
was so hurt and he wants me to stay so badly but my stepmom doesn't, even if she
says she does. I need to think of a valid reason to give them as to why I'm
moving back in with my mom without hurting my dad and disappointing them. </span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass27CD67D7EC4C498AA443FCDCA61C9229"><div><div class="ExternalClassE89266F3B897477BA96DDAA42EB5011A"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);font-size:16px;"><span>Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you are trying to
find a balance between being honest with your Dad, but sticking to your grounds
about moving out. The stress from a big decision like this can be very
harsh, but suicide is not the answer. That just ends you and fixes nothing.
In fact, both of your parents would be devastated. There are some hard
choices to be made, but if your suicidal thoughts continue to creep up as an
option, please make a promise to yourself that you will go get help, tell your
parents, or call the hotline before you would ever take any action on that.</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);font-size:16px;"><span>You mentioned that your Dad was hurt by the conversation last
night. If there is something you need to clear up about last night, do
it. If there is an apology in order, give it, if you wish you would of
approached it a different way, let him know that, but nothing will get solved
without honesty either. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);font-size:16px;"><span>It is clear that you care about him, so if you do make this
move, is there a plan for visiting, getting together with him, and keeping
communication open. Maybe that needs to be part of the next discussion as
it does not sound like it is your intention to no longer see him.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);font-size:16px;"><span>Take your time to think things through too. When it comes
to a big transition like this, well thought out plans usually go more smoothly
than any plans made by the seat of your pants. If you need to talk this
through more you certainly can email again or even text or chat during the
hours listed below. We hope that your talk goes ok. Keep safe, and
keep in touch.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);font-size:16px;"><span>Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></span><br></p>
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