| I Did Something Stupid | Family | I Did Something Stupid | <div class="ExternalClass3F37E382E3A24C48B5D2F5C950614900"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>So I did something really stupid and now I have
to tell my dad. I had a sleepover. My mom was asleep so we all decided that we wanted to know what alcohol
tasted like. We were in there pouring it in, and then we got caught by mom. So
then the next morning my friends left and they had to tell their parents too. Me and my mom had a conversation after, and she's mad at me and disappointed. I feel like she's making a big deal out of nothing. She started talking
about how we could've died, talking about how I could become an addict or doing
drugs or becoming pregnant at age 15. Now I know all those things, but it was
just one stupid thing I did. It was a mistake and she's just making me suffer
over nothing. I didn't even drink it, and if I were to, I didn't pour a lot, I
poured like the tiniest amount mixed with orange juice. But I know that doesn't
change what I did. Its kinda unfair tho, because my friends parents were just
like oh okay, but here I have my mom making a whole big deal. I didn't drink
it, if I did it wasn't much, but still it's a mistake and their just making it
like a big problem. I know I'm not gonna become an addict or become pregnant
cause I'm not that careless, it was just a one time thing. And I know lots of
people say it's only a one time thing, but it was. It really was. But now I have
to tell my dad which she's making me, and I really don't want to. My dad gets
super mad, when he's mad. SUPER. And I'm afraid to tell him, cause now I'm breaking
both relationships with my parents. I just need help on how i can explain it to
my dad. and I'm soo scared, beyond scared. I feel like dying in a hole. </span></p>
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are reaching out for some help here. This situation will definitely be a
learning experience for you. It is never fun to be caught when you are
doing something that you know is off limits. But you were and the reality
is that now the best thing to do is to admit the poor choice made and accept
the punishment given. Did mom over react? Possibly. Are you
minimalizing things? Possibly. </span></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>What occurred
here is that you broke your mom’s trust and now it will take hard work to earn
it back. This incident may be discussed or brought up by either
parent. Try to hold back from making any type of statement that it is no
big deal. To your parents it is a huge matter. </span></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>For now, follow the
rules at home. Work at saying what you mean, and being honest with your
parents. If you say you are going somewhere – make sure you go
there. Using the ideas in this tips article can help you with finding
ways to demonstrate to your parents that you are trying to be responsible and
trying to learn from your mistakes. It may be difficult, but putting the effort into earning back the trust will be worth it. </span><a href="/Pages/tip-be-responsible.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-be-responsible.aspx</a><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We are here to
help you get through this difficult time. Try using coping skills when you
get anxious or scared. If you need some ideas, check out this list of 99
coping skills. </span><a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</a><br></p>
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