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I Want My PrivacyFamilyI Want My Privacy<div class="ExternalClass067ADEAFD8B7410DB21B58641E5FA1C3"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>I'm going through a lot with my mom. I'm pretty sure she has narcissistic personality disorder, but she will never go see a psychiatrist. In addition to my personal diagnosis, she refuses to let me have my privacy. She feels as if she has a right to go through every little thing I have. I do have a phone, computer, and one form of social media. But she has access to everything, regardless the numerous times I had pleaded her to let me live. Because of her outrageous rules, my mental and physical health have just been getting worse. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClassAEB1A7B5B75B4DBB8822AF494CA6A48F"><div><div class="ExternalClass067ADEAFD8B7410DB21B58641E5FA1C3"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We are glad you have discovered our website and are reaching out tonight.  We can hear the frustration you are feeling due to the lack of privacy from your mother.   While we do not know your mother, there is one thing certain, we can't control others.  We can't change how others behave, unless they want to change.   What we can do is change how we react.  This is not saying that it is your fault, however the options to change how you feel about it lie with you.  One option to try is to “get ahead” of the situation that is causing the stress.  If she feels she needs to review your phone and computer, offer them to her before she asks.  Stay relaxed and calm.  This may feel counter intuitive at first, and you may need to have more control over their content.  Yet, you indicated she will be looking at them anyway.  By you offering them to her calmly, it will remove the stress from the situation for you, and may even build trust, and perhaps decrease her feelings that she needs to control the situation.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><font face="calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">The best way to help your situation will be to find ways to build trust with your mom.  We have some tips for you that will give you a place to start with this.  As you build trust maybe you will be granted more freedom because you have demonstrated that your mom can rely on you. </span></font><a href="/Pages/tip-dealing-with-parents.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-dealing-with-parents.aspx</a></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><font face="calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Keep up the good work and keep communicating your feelings.  When things seem too stressful at home, call us.  Vent to one of our counselors and let those feelings out so they don't damage the relationship with your mom.  Things can get better and your relationship with your mom can improve.</span></font></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><font face="calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"></span></font><span>Sincerely,</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Larry – Counselor</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>14

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