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<div class="ExternalClassBEEA1A57D63945D88A9755AA0BFA8B21"><span style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">I don't know how to start this but I'm grounded and I'm not allowed to see anyone all I get to do is go to school and go home. The thing is I'm grounded until the middle of the summer. I'm really upset because I'll be going off to college 3 hours away from my boyfriend and it'll be difficult to see him already. I go off to college the week before I am ungrounded and we've been planning to spend every minute of the summer together before I go off where I'll only be able to see him every other week or so. I just feel horrible I won't be able to see him or any of my friends the whole summer and I'm just stuck in my room and I don't know what to do about this situation. </span></div>
<div class="ExternalClass6CACA0F596BD4E8E823FCB4B7C779785"><div style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><p class="MsoNormal"><span>We know how upsetting grounding is for teenagers. It cuts you off from so many things and fun activities. Everyone makes mistakes and unfortunately, sometimes it leads to being grounded. You can cope with being grounded by thinking about what happened, what you did, show some extra respect and make the most of the time you have to spend at home. Most importantly, learn from this mistake so you don’t lose that respect again.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>Here are a few things that might help.</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>First, the whole point of being grounded is to remind you that you made a mistake and that there is a lesson to be learned. Did you acknowledge this to your parents? Did you have an opportunity to talk with them about what happened, admit your wrong and accept your punishment? If not, take some time to think about it. Talk with them about the time frame of your grounding and accept it. Maybe they will consider to lessen the sentence time if you show your responsibility.</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>Secondly, don’t be sneaky about being grounded. If you get caught sneaking out of your room or not coming home after school, your parents will be even more upset and you will lose their trust even more. It is time to build that trust up. How do you build that up? You can do chores without being asked or reminded. You can pick up extra chores to show that you are being responsible. Increasing your responsibility will put a smile on your parent’s face. Show respect no matter how upset you are feeling. You may feel that things are unfair but you are not in the position to make that decision. The more attitude you give, the more it may upset or provoke more time in your room and less privileges. </span><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>Finally, find healthy activities to take up your time. You may want to listen to music or watch Netflix all day but that can be boring after a while. Read a book, organize your closet, discover a new hobby or spend time with a sibling or parent. Mix things up to pass this time. </span><a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</a><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>We know that this time without your boyfriend and friends is a long time and certainly no fun. Just know that you will have that time soon and maybe plan something fun to do when you are no longer grounded. Once you are off to college you will take these lessons and use them as life’s little strategies. </span><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>We are here anytime to talk with. Continue to reach out via phone, email, chat or text. You are not alone and will always have someone to talk with.</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>Take care,</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span>Naina, counselor</span></p></div> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span> </div>
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