People may begin to use addictive substances such as drugs and alcohol to reduce stress, to fit in with friend groups, or even simply because of curiosity. However, occasional use, no matter what the reason, can turn into more frequent use and escalate into addiction. It might feel like using the substances helps to numb difficult feelings or takes your mind off stressful situations, however, the feelings and situations remain. Repeated use can quickly turn from an illusion of relief to a harmful fixation on the next time you can use the substance which may greatly impact your relationships with friends, family, and your ability to complete day to day tasks.
It's not just substances that can have these impacts, other behaviors such as self-injuring, gambling and pornography can feel harmless to start but can escalate quickly and become compulsive. Many times, addictions and compulsions develop when you are trying to mask another problem in your life and often lead to feelings of shame and regret.
When facing any type of addiction or compulsion, it's important to ask yourself:
- When do I feel the greatest need to act on these addictions/compulsions?
- Is there a need in my life that I am trying to fill?
- Is there a situation or feeling I am trying to avoid or control?
Finding the answers to these questions can help you to find a way through towards help and healing. Although challenging, the healing is worth it.
How to start:
- Admit there is a problem. Start by admitting there is a problem to yourself, then when you are ready, share this with a trusted adult.
- Ask for help. Look for resources in your area who specialize in addictive and compulsive behaviors. Work with a professional to mend painful areas in your life.
- Work at healing step by step. It is hard to just stop doing addictive or compulsive behaviors. If you slip up, don't give up. Start again, keep going.
- Turn to a higher power (if this applies to you). Ask for strength and the ability to resist. Rely on the foundation of your faith to support and guide you.
- Replace the unhealthy coping behaviors. Recognize the behaviors which are not serving you well. Replace them with healthy coping skills and stress management.
- Remember your WHY. Write down the things in your life you are hoping will improve with help and healing. Post these reasons somewhere you will see them daily so you can keep them fresh in your mind. When feeling discouraged read your list.
