It's easy to get so caught up in wanting a relationship with someone that you become blind to the ways you are being treated.
Have you ever gotten that gut feeling that you are not being treated right? Do you ever feel put down or shamed for the things you say, or the way you dress? Even though you want things to be different, some relationships are not healthy ones. If you start to have that nagging feeling that something isn't right, take a look at how you relate to that person and how they relate to you.
Have you ever noticed any of the following danger signs in one of your relationships?
- One-Sidedness – One person dominates the relationship.
- Manipulation – The person does anything to get what he or she wants.
- Possessiveness – The person becomes extremely jealous if you talk or hang around with other people.
- Unrealistic Demands – The person tells you that you must think, act, or dress a certain way in order to remain friends.
- Gaslighting – Someone influencing you to question your own sanity, perception of reality or memories, often trying to make you take responsibility for their behavior.
- Anger – The person gets extremely angry or physically violent.
If you have noticed any of these signs…it may be time to make a change. Maybe you have seen “red flags" in the past but ignored them thinking that it not a big deal. Don't be embarrassed if you haven't realized it before. It's easy to make excuses for that person but the bottom line is that you deserve to be treated better.
If you have a gut feeling that something isn't right, but you can't quite put your finger on it, describe the situation to someone you trust and ask for their opinion. If you're afraid to talk to someone you know, call our hotline and we can help you determine if your relationship is a healthy one.