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The Mirror Rule: Learning to Love Myself

Do you love yourself? For many people, the answer to that question is a ​resounding “No!”

When you see yourself in the mirror, do you usually say positive things about yourself or negative things? Many people would say that they usually say negative things about themselves, whether it is about their weight, face, hair, legs, acne, maybe even their nose!

Self-love is something that is learned and must be practiced on a daily basis. Just like any other skill that we learn: playing an instrument, playing sports, or learning a language- self-love must be practiced every day. 

​How do you do this? How do you start to love yourself? We like to call this daily self-love exercise the “Mirror Rule,” and it looks like this:

  1. ​The next time you see yourself in the mirror, look at yourself in the eye, smile, and say something positive to yourself. Some examples of what you can say are:

    “I am beautiful/handsome.”
    “I look good today!”
    “I am enough.”
    “I am strong.”
    “I can handle this.”
    “I am amazing.”
    “I am thankful to be alive.”

  2. NEVER allow yourself to say anything negative about yourself when you look in the mirror. If you catch yourself saying something negative, smile, and say something positive.

Try the “mirror rule” for 30 days, and you will begin the journey of learning to love yourself.​​​​​

“It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power!”

Robert T. Kiosaki


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