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TIP: Is Your Life Out of Control?

Sometimes it seems like nothing is going right in your life – friends, family, school. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and not sure how to pull yourself out of the black hole that you find yourself in. Putting a name on what is bothering you is a great place to start. Most likely there are multiple issues to deal with, and you may want to make a mental list of all the things that are bothering you.

 Just like anything you try to resolve in life, it is important to consider your state of mind. You would not try to solve a math problem when you are depressed or sad, why would you try to work out a relationship problem? Your mind works best at cracking the difficult problems when you are in a good state of mind, and when you can think clearly.

Organize your thoughts and decide what ONE thing you would like to work on first. Do not attempt to solve all of your problems at once. That can lead to a downward spiral searching for an answer that may not be there. And if you get to the point where you begin to jumble things together and do not feel as focused, take a few minutes away from your problems to get your mind back to normal. Do something you love to do, reading, drawing, exercising, listening to music, watching a movie, taking a shower, even just laying down and doing some deep breathing. Once you feel better, when your mind begins to focus again, then you can problem solve.  

People continue to run into problems throughout their life. It is important to learn to cope with problems. And the great part about coping, as you do not have to do it alone. There are millions of ways people learn to solve problems and a lot of them involve help. Help from a friend, a teacher, a parent, even a counselor, are all great ways to reach out for guidance.

Some people consider suicide as an option for solving their problems. It is important to realize that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  It is the result of a person’s pain exceeding the amount of coping resources they have available. If you find the balance tipping the wrong direction, it is important to reach out for help.   At the Boys Town National Hotline we can be that help, we can be that helping hand to pick you back up, we can be the one that reminds you why you deserve more.

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