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TIP: Being Popular


​​Do you ever look at others and wish you could be more like them? Maybe you feel like you don’t have as many friends as other people; or some days you feel like nobody likes you very much at all. Just know that it isn’t realistic to think that everyone is going to like you all the time.

It’s easy to look at “popular” kids and think that they have it all together. Appearances are just on the outside though, and don’t reflect how a person really feels on the inside. Even “popular” people have struggles in their lives.

Maybe you aren’t the best athlete, you don’t get the best grades, you don’t have as many friends, or you think your looks don’t quite measure up. Comparing yourself to others generally brings unhappiness. You may not hit your “peak” during your school years, but you still have a lot of life ahead of you.

So what can you do when you’re feeling down about your popularity or life in general? Remind yourself of the following:

  • No one’s life is perfect.
  • Everyone is different.
  • Popularity in high school doesn’t guarantee happiness and success later in life
  • When it comes to friends it’s the quality, not quantity that really counts.
  • Learning how to bounce back after disappointments will make you more successful in life.
  • Concentrate on being the best you that you can be.

We are often our own harshest critic. No one is perfect, so be open to making improvements when you can. You don’t have control over what others think or feel, so focus instead on being the best person you can be.  ​

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