Talking to your parents about what you are thinking or feeling can sometimes be a challenge. You may try to communicate something that is really emotional for you, but end up feeling put off or unheard. Conversations like this may be difficult because of how fast it all happens, the emotions involved, or because it is hard to find a time for a heartfelt talk.
If this is something that happens to you, consider writing your thoughts and feelings in a letter to your parents. Communicating this way can be helpful for many reasons:
- You have time to organize your thoughts and feelings.
- Writing the letter gets it off your chest and can help you feel better, even if you don't deliver it.
- Once a conversation has happened, you can't take your words back. Writing a letter allows you to reread and rewrite your thoughts if you want.
- You can share your story and feelings without interruption.
- Your parents will have time to process and respond thoughtfully and calmly.
You want your letter to get your parent's attention, allow them to know what's going on and how you are feeling. So it might be hard to know where to start.
Below is a sample of a letter that you can personalize to fit your situation.
I usually don't do stuff like this, but I thought this may be a good way to talk to you. I wanted to just talk with you sometime but it's hard because I'm kind of embarrassed.
I have been feeling really down lately. My classes are impossible and dad is probably going to freak out when he sees my report card. I feel like I always let him down, especially because my grades are never good enough. I really do try, it just doesn't come easy to me. This kid at school is also giving me a hard time and slamming me into lockers. I am sick of all of it.
I don't know what kind of help I need, but it's like there is a dark cloud over me all the time. I'm always tired, but I can't sleep. I tried to talk to a couple friends who listened, but I could tell they didn't really get it. I even thought about going to the counselor at school, but I doubt that she would care.
I don't want things to keep going on like this, but I don't know what else to do. I know you won't be able to fix all this stuff, but I wanted to let you know what was going on and see if you had any advice or anything that you could give me.
Your son, Zach
Writing a letter like this lets you share what's going on and how you are feeling, and it lets the person know that you want their help and support. You can send your letter via email or write it out on paper. Do whatever works for you.
If you find that it's hard to talk about something personal with your parents, don't stress out! Put your thoughts in a letter so you can share your story and get the support you need.