There is not just one type of person that gets bullied. Bullying doesn’t happen only to kids that are “unpopular,” but it affects even kids that are smart, funny, popular, and seem to have everything going for them. If you are being bullied, it doesn’t mean you are less of a person, so don’t let a bully make you feel that way. You deserve respect just like anyone else.
Bullying can become a way of life for some, and it satisfies their need to control other people. They often have low-self esteem, and make others feel bad so they can feel better about themselves. The hardest part is realizing that you cannot change or control someone else. You can’t change the way they treat other people, but you can change the way you react to them.
As humans our first instincts when we are confronted with conflict are fight or flight. If your first instinct is to want to crawl under the table and tell the bully to shut up, or to punch them, you’re not alone! However, doing either of those things isn’t going to get you the results you want. The best thing you can do to combat a bully is to reach down deep inside yourself and find all the courage and self-confidence you can.
If you are being verbally bullied you don’t have to listen to it. Think of a few quick comeback lines you can use such as “ok” or “I’m working on that.” Say something that doesn’t have emotion attached to it, and something that they can’t argue with. Your other option is to simply walk away. If you are in a situation that you can’t walk away from such as during class in school, ask the teacher if you can move seats, or tell the teacher what’s going on and ask what they can do to help.
If you are being bullied via texting, or internet sites such as Facebook, or MySpace, you can restrict certain people from getting on your profiles, and you can restrict certain incoming phone numbers on your cell phone. If they do find a way to send you a message, simply ignore it. The more you fight back, the more fuel you’re adding to the fire. The bottom line is...ignore what they are saying or doing and remember that they are not better than you.
Talk to trusted adults around you about what you’re going through. This could be a parent, aunt, uncle, school counselor or even our hotline. You don’t have to go through this alone!!