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Edited: 3/31/2010 11:37 AM by
No Support From Mom
I am a refugee from Africa. I am a senior in high school and am in the process of getting together my applications,but my mother is against me in everything I do she refuses to support me even in signing financial aid forms for my education when she know she cannot afford the payments.She treats my younger sister and cousin differently than she treats me, she wakes me up almost every morning with a slap or throwing something at me when she needs somthing done.Just recently she requested for me to put my hand on the stoves hot plate to see if i could handle the pain, and told me I would burn in hell and the pain will never end.Sometimes i even wonder if she is my real mother, we do not even resemble each other.She is a single mother by choice,she never speaks of my father, only that he asked to be a family and she refused and wanted to raise me alone and everyday she reminds me of what a mistake i am.Right now she is not talking to me for one reason or the other,I just need someone to talk to and who can offer me some help.Because i have worked hard in school all my life and have always planned on going to college I just feel that the stress she is placing on me is too heavy a load for me to support any longer.

Pleasr help me, i know this situation is not as seriouse as others that you may have heard but to be in my shoes, it is.
Edited: 3/31/2010 11:38 AM by
Good for you for reaching out for support.  You should be proud of yourself for working so hard toward your dream of going to college!  You are smart to be working on the application process.  So sorry to hear your mom is not supporting you through this process.  Do you have an adult who is supportive?  Maybe a relative or school guidance counselor who specializes in college preparation?  The guidance counselor could advise you how to proceed if your mother continues to refuse to sign the financial aid documents.  Do not give up on your plans!

This is a very important time in your life.  It is unfortunate that you are struggling with your relationship with your mom.  It is understandable that you would be upset by some of the things she has said and done.  Again, if there is an adult you trust, please share your feelings and what is going on in your home.  If you ever do not feel safe in your home, you can always call for help.  That might involve calling the Boys Town Hotline, 911 or Child Protective Services. 

Please know, Boys Town is here for you anytime. When you start to feel bad, remind yourself of all your accomplishments and the goals you have for yourself!  You are a smart young woman with a bright future ahead of you.

Take Care!

Counselor - Nikki