We are glad you are reaching out today. It is difficult when parents are fighting. It does send a confusing message when they tell the children not to fight and respect each other. Fighting and yelling can result in many negative emotions.

It is so important to let your parents know how their behavior is hurting you. Sometimes youth talk or write letters to express their feelings. You may even know a family friend or relative that will help you talk to your parents. Counseling is a good way for families to learn how to communicate with each other more positively.

Just know that nothing is worth you cutting yourself. Please promise to keep yourself safe today. There are more positive ways of expressing how you feel. You do a good job of emailing to let us know how you are doing. Try listening to music or reading when your parents are fighting. The main thing is to distract yourself from focusing on their behaviors. Just know that this isn't your fault. You are a good person in a family that needs help. Let us know how the suggestions are working for you.

Counselor,

Valerie