It is completely understandable you having these feelings toward your father because of the history and how he is treating you and your Mom. If this is your entire history of your relationship with him and you don't have any happy memories it is no surprise you would be very tired of it.
You asked if this is abuse, it certainly can be neglect of your feelings and should be different. Does your Dad hurt you physically also? If that is the case you can contact your Children Protective Services department to talk with them about getting you and your family some help. You do not deserve to be hurt both emotionally or physically. Let us know if you are being hurt and we can provide you with that number if you need it.
So, it sounds like your home is stressful because you don't know what your Dad will say or do. Is that correct? If that is the case, I hope you are talking with your Mom and also trying to find ways to find positive influences in your life. You said you want to do something, that sounds like you have just had enough and your feelings are going to spill over to cope with this frustration. If that is the case, you need to get those feelings out and some changes in your life needs to happen.
It is unknown if your father can or will change, so, it may be where you get support from your Mom or other family members like an uncle, grandpa or any other positive influence in your life. Sometimes if you can't get what you need from a parent then you should get that positive influence from someone else. You could also look into getting a mentor through school, girls and boys club etc. We can help you find those organizations also.
Finally, what your father is going through and feels does not have to impact you if you first make sure to tell yourself "hit issues are not going to effect who I am." His influence affect you very badly if you do not have a balance of other people, activities that make you happy and having goals on what is important and healthy for you.
We know this is very hard to deal with in your family and we want to be there for you. Please continue to reach out to us or other adults to get the positive messages you deserve. You can also, call us or visit our website for online chat and other advise that we provided to teens like yourself.