Sorry to hear that things at home continue to a struggle. It sounds like you’re really frustrated with your mom right now. It can be difficult to accept no from a parent when you want to go out and enjoy yourself with friends. Although you can’t always get your way, you should be allowed to hang out with runs once in awhile. Do you think she’d allow you to have a friend over instead? This can be a good way to compromise – you still get to spend time with a friend but your mom can supervise things.

We hope you’re not serious about running away. Not only could this cause your family a lot of stress, but this could also cause more problems for you. Running away is considered illegal and could cause you to end up in the juvenile justice system. This is probably not what you want for yourself, so we’d highly encourage you to brainstorm other solutions to your problems. Besides, most people that run from their problems typically find that their problems eventually catch up to them. It’s best to deal with your problems now.

It must be really frustrating when your mom calls you "dramatic". It sounds like she’s just dismissing your feelings instead of recognizing them. How are you coping with this frustration? Biting your arms sounds like a really unhealthy way to deal with your stress. It’s important to engage of some of the healthy coping skills previous email counselors have told you about. Some suggestions were journaling, listening to music, prayer, exercise, and watching a funny TV show. Find something that works for you. Coping skills can help you deal with all of those agonizing feelings you’re dealing with.

We’d also encourage you to check out this tips page for dealing with parents. http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/DiscoverIt/Articles/Pages/DealingWithParents.aspx. Some of these simple ideas are great ways to help improve your relationship with your mom. In the end, hopefully she’ll recognize your efforts and allow you to have more freedom.

Take care and stay positive!

Jessie, Counselor