Fight With My Mom Everyday
Me and my mom have been arguing nonstop for the last month . My parents have been separated since I was born, and I see my dad every weekend if I'm not busy with my friends .
I fight with my mom every single day. She calls me names. I do make mistakes, but I never disrespect her. She gets mad at the little things I do, and never believes me about anything anymore. She never even accepts any apologies I make. I cry everyday and my self-esteem keeps getting lower and lower everyday.
It doesn't seem like a big deal to other people, but it is and no one ever listens to me! This is the worst I've ever felt in my entire life and it hurts. My mom was abused as a little girl, so I think she's taking her anger about that on me. Now I'm at the point where I don't know what to do or who to talk to. My mom always "threatens" to send me to live with my dad. I would have left along time ago, but here's the thing. I have so many friends that I love and care about with my whole heart.
I have a boyfriend who makes me feel like the most special girl in the world and I feel like that they are the only good thing in my life left. So should I leave all that just to get away from my crazy mother? I'm so upset & confused and I just need answers. I'm begging for help.
Thank you for writing in and sharing what is going on in your family. This is a really difficult time in your life. You are expected to conduct yourself in a somewhat grown up manner, yet you are not old enough to participate in a lot of social activities or have a job. Typically at your age you are not allowed to date or go out unless you are in a group. Parents expect you to be responsible with your academics and help around the house. They sometimes forget that you are still growing up and need nurturing, encouragement and guidance to make good decisions.
You shared with us how your Mother talks to you and treats you. You did not however, fill us in on the environment in your Father's home. Is it a place where you feel safe, loved and cared for physically and emotionally? Would your Father want you to come and live there? Have the two of you ever talked about that possibility or has your Mother just threatened you?
Please take the time to really take a look at the pros and cons or the advantages and disadvantages of living with your Mother or living with your Father. Look at the physical things like would you have your own room both places, would you be able to feel as comfortable one place as the other, would you participate in family activities in both places? Also look at the emotional part of being in one place or the other. Write these things down so you can get a more clear picture of your options.
You may want to talk with an adult that you trust who can help you take everything into consideration.
Good luck and take care of yourself.