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Edited: 3/31/2010 11:57 AM by
Will I Ever Feel Happy?
Hello, I have a problem in myself  I am not happy since my brother got killed. I feel like crying but it won't help. I live with my both parents but they don't speak English, we are immigrants. I'm only one who speaks English in my family. I had a lot of thoughts about killing myself, I still don't see point of living because we all going to die one day. I haven't done so because I have to take care of my parents. Everyday is same day for me. Is it going to change? will I ever feel happy?  I am becoming lazier, lazier, I feel like I dont want to do anything. Thanks for help
Edited: 3/31/2010 11:57 AM by
Losing someone you love is very difficult no matter what your age or stage of life.  Very few people can work through the grieving process without support from someone who cares about them and that they can trust with their feelings.

There are no answers.  You can look and look for reasons why this happened, why it was your brother, why it wasn't someone else who seemingly had no one who cared about them.  It is one of those things in life we have no control over and we must accept.

We sometimes pray for the strength to make it through the grief.  Some people totally submerge themselves in their grief and work it through.  Others, because of their day to day responsibilities, only allow themselves small doses of grief each day so they are able to function.  You have to decide what is best for you.

If the loss of your brother is causing you to have suicidal thoughts, your emotions are not healthy and strong enough to work through this without support.  Talk with someone you can trust.  Let them know how you are feeling and ask them to help you.

This person may be a clergyman, a friend, or even a counselor or therapist.  You need someone to help you.  If you would like to access a professional and want help with referrals, you can always let us know where you are, city and state, and we will look up referrals for you.

Stay in touch and allow us to be part of your support network.


Pat, Counselor