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Edited: 9/8/2009 9:47 AM by
Scared to Call
I've always been really scared of calling or using one of these hotlines. I don't know where to begin. I don't even know how anyone can possibly help me out of this at this point. My depression has gotten so bad that I constantly have to restrain myself from crying. Everytime I get in a vehicle, I
look around for all the possible ways I could get in an accident, hoping it will happen.
 
I've been getting worse for about 2 years. I can't say I know exactly when or why it started, but I know that my last relationship didn't do much to help. I thought he would make me happy. He was perfect in so many ways. But throughout the year and a hald relationship, it became all about sex. He yelled at me and emotional abused me everyday. I wasn't allowed to talk to anyone but him, I couldn't even TALK about anyone else. He took everything from me. When I
finally got up the nerve to break up with him, he tortured me. Called me constantly, called me nasty names. Not to say that I wasn't pretty mean back at him. We still continued our physical relationship. After 2 months, I didn't think I could live life without him anymore. I wasn't used to being alone. But by then, he didn't want me anymore. He said all I was good for was sex. He got another girlfriend about 6 months ago, cheated on her with me. Which ruined me more.
 
I can't let go of the guilt that I let him do that. to me, and her. She never found out. And he's still with her. It kills me everyday. No matter how much pain he put me through, I don't know how to move on. I have a panic attack
everyday and cry like I'm dying. Everything I do, I want him to be there with me. I want to go back in time, when he was there at all times. Whenever something bad happens, I just want to call him so he'll make it better. But I
know that's not possible. It hurts so bad. I feel like I'm ruined. I'll never get better. I'm so scared. Of everything. Going out in public, what if i see him? Everytime I do, I breakdown. I don't trust a single soul. Everyone has always left me. 
 
I've tried before to talk to my parents about getting help, and they said I was being dramatic and emotional. I'm getting worse and I don't know how I'll ever get out.
I CRAVE to cut myself and get drink all the pain away. It's unbearable.  I need help soon. Not just my friends saying "just move on, and be happy." because if i could, i would.
 
I have suicidal thoughts on a daily basis. It's not that I choose to, or that I want to die. I just want the pain to go away. I'm to the point where I'm even  afraid of myself.
 
I plan on calling your hotline tonight, I've just been too afraid. I don't know how to start or how the phone conversations work.
Edited: 9/8/2009 10:19 AM by

I hear you saying that you are feeling suicidal, but not really wanting to die.  Most people that have suicidal thoughts don't really want to end their life, they just don't want to feel pain and hurt anymore.  It sounds like that's the case for you.  It must feel very scary to you that things are so out of control that you feel like hurting yourself is the only way out.  Suicide is not the answer to your problems.   I hope you realize that you are way more brave than you give yourself credit for.  You're reaching out to us right?  That's not an easy thing to do.  And you said you are willing to give us a call tonight.  It can be pretty intimidating to call and talk to a total stranger about personal things, but I promise you that many people feel a lot better after they do.  We aren't here to judge you, we're here to listen, support,you, and make sure you're going to be safe.  Don't worry about what you are going to say to one of our counselors.  We talk to lots of teen everyday and we will help you with that.  We're not going to think anything you say is stupid.  We don't even expect you to be able to tell us exactly what's wrong.  You can just tell us what's on your mind and explain some of the suicidal thoughts you've been having lately. 
 
I'm so glad you've made the decision to contact us.  It just might save your life!!!  We'll be here whenever you decide to call.  Tell the counselor on the phone that you have been writing to someone on yourlifeyourvoice.com and that it was kinda scary for you to call the hotline.  They'll be able to help you through it.
 
Sincerely,
Katie-Counselor