It sounds like you’re experiencing a lot of changes in your life right now. Moving at your age is such a stressful experience! Leaving behind your friends, hang-out spots, your school, and activities would make any teenager feel a little down in the dumps.
We’re here to tell you that things will improve! It might take some work on your behalf, but hopefully soon you’ll start to like your new school! (Or at least not dread it!)
It’s important to remember that just because you’ve moved away doesn’t mean you can’t keep in touch with your old friends back home. You can keep in touch via email, facebook, messenger…you can even go the old fashion route and send them a postcard.
Let them know what you’ve been up to and ask them to keep you updated on the latest from your old school. I know it’s not the same as seeing them everyday, but you can still maintain your relationships. You can even plan a trip for this summer to go visit or possibly they can visit you at your place. Try not to let these friendships fade, they’re important.
I know it’s really hard to make new friends, but you have to give it a try. It will be important for you to build a support system in your new school. Try stepping outside your comfort zone a bit and start up a convo with a classmate in between classes.
If that’s too anxiety provoking, start small and work your way up. Tomorrow, try smiling more and say hi to at least 3 new people in the halls. This will let others know you’re friendly and open to meeting new people.
It might be too late in the school year, but consider joining a club or school activity. This is a great way to meet new people and strike up a conversation with someone new.
You can also consider doing some volunteer work in your community over the summer. Not only is this a great way to give back to others but it will give you a sense of purpose and provide you with a way to meet new people.
Although moving is hard, hopefully you’ll become a stronger person through all of this. This move can help you improve your social skills, your flexibility, and your ability to keep an open mind and be open to new opportunities.
If you have additional questions or just need support, we’re always here. Let us know!
Best,
Jessie, Crisis Counselor