We are so glad you took the time to email us tonight. When we feel uncomfortable in our own skin it can be very difficult to get the right support we need to feel better.  We want to commend you for trying to talk with your school counselor. 

Even though you feel like you can't talk to a male counselor, it is really great you tried to. You may think that your parents would think the worst if you talked to them about getting a counselor, but it is important to ask anyway. Remember no one can help you if they don't know how you are feeling. Your parents love you and they want to help you through what you are going through.

People who talk down to you are definitely dealing with their own issues. We know it isn't easy to not listen to these people who say mean things to you, but please don't let them dictate how you feel about yourself. If your parents don't know that your family is treating you poorly you need to let them know.  This way they can possibly put a stop to it.

 Another thing you want to do is talk to a trusted teacher at school about the peers who are saying mean things to you. We are so sorry you are having to go through these hurtful comments others make, but know that you are strong and will prove them all wrong!

We are so glad you are not feeling suicidal.  Dealing with this amount of stress, plus the way you feel about yourself can lead to those types of feelings.  So, if you ever start to feel that way please get in touch with us as soon as you can. 

Motivation is something that you do have in you.  It will take a lot of work, but with your determination you can and will lose weight. Sit down and right yourself some short term goals. Try to focus on doing positive things for yourself like 30 minutes of walking every day, eating healthy foods, hanging out with friends, journaling, music, taking pictures, scrap booking, animals, etc. 

This way you are doing things you enjoy doing and some of them give you some exercise too. Most importantly write down all the things you like about yourself, look in the mirror and recite them to yourself. You are a strong, determined young lady and you will get through this. The more positive thinking you do, the more likely positive things will happen in your life! 

Check out our journals in the 'Facts and Information' section of our website, www.yourlifeyourvoice.org, too. Always remember we believe in you and know you can overcome this.

Please know we are always here for you when you need us. Remember we have counselors available 24/7 if you ever want to call and talk with someone. Also, check out our online chat service that is available Mon-Thur, 8p-11p!  Keep your head up and know that you are not alone.

Be Strong,
Andria, Counselor