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Edited: 3/3/2011 3:19 PM by
Home School Again!!!
Lately, I've been dealing with trying to balance school, home, and not having any one to talk to. In the beginning of the school year I went to this school, and I was sick. I kept missing all these days that really messed me up. I got a lot of zeros, so I had to go back to home school, which is where I was before. After the first semester was over, we moved. 
 
I decided I wanted to go back to school, and give it another try because I missed talking with friends, and having different courses, and classes to choose from. I was there for like two weeks, and it was really hard for me to do the work. I had to be put back in to two classes I took the first semester because they were different then home school classes. I failed the tests they gave me in order to get back into public school.
 
So instead of doing two hard classes, and two electives. I had to do all hard classes. It was harder on me than everybody else. I was new, and I had a lot of catching up to do. They were piling the homework on every night. It was even worse because they were trying to cram everything in, and with very little time because of all the days we missed because of the snow. I felt like I wasn't learning well because I didn't get the time like everybody else.
 
Being homeschooled kind of brought me down a bit. So now, I had to go to being home schooled again. I try so hard to get an understanding of school, but it's so hard. I study every night trying to comprehend what I'm doing, but I just can't seem to ever remember. I loved the school, and my teacher's. That's why it was so hard for me to go back. I had to make a decision based on what would be right for myself.
 
It's really stressful on my behalf because I feel like I have nobody to talk to about this, and nobody really understands what I am going through. I feel like I'm dumb or I don't know why I just can't seem to learn anything. I used to be an a/b student, and I don't understand what happened, and that's what kills me the most. I want so badly to go to college, but I just can't get it! I wonder if something is wrong with me.
Edited: 3/3/2011 3:21 PM by

There is NOTHING wrong with you. You are a totally normal kid in a difficult situation. You're not going to be a failure. You're not going to miss out on college.  You're not going to be homeless.  You're not going to be poor. You're not going to be alone forever.  This is not going to ruin you.

When we're kids we get set up to believe that things like this are going to ruin our lives, but you don't have to worry about that. Just by reading your email it's clear that you are a caring and intelligent girl.  You're very capable of being successful. Your brain is racing and taking you to places that you don't have to go.

Major changes in your life are all coming together at the same time and you should expect these things to not be perfect. In fact, you might even expect to do bad at some things. That doesn't say anything about the future though.  You need to go through this because it's a challenge. You're going to be challenged in some form or another every day and that's what makes life so important. If we didn't have to work at it, what would it be worth?

In the meantime, take a step back and a deep breath. If you destroy yourself with anxiety you're going to do poorly no matter what. You're not gaining anything by feeling bad about this situation.

Find some support (parents, friends, a school counselor) and let them know what's going on. Let them know that you need specific help like: 1) How do I balance my time? 2) Is there anything I can do to make my study habits more efficient? 3) Can we talk about maybe changing something so I can be more successful 4) Vent!  Don't bottle everything up.

Let us know how we can help along the way.  This doesn't solve the problem, but it's a good start.  We're always here.

Counselor Paul