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Edited: 5/20/2010 2:55 PM
My Struggle With Friends And School
Recently, i feel like i have no friends at all. They don't want to hang out with me or have anything to do with me. I feel like I have noone. My relationship with my mother is bad too, so i cant tell her anything cause she wont understand. I used to have a best friend who went to a different school 2 yrs ago but we still live in the same town, but we dont see each other or talk and i feel like shes growing up and has alot more friends then me and its like a competion. But after she left i made a new best friend but one day we got in a fight for no reason and now were not very good friends at all. I feel like shes taking all my other friends away from me and I can't make any new ones because I'm in a private school so the class is extremly small. All the boys like her too. And next year im switching to a public school and so is this girl and i feel like im never going to get away from her. It feels like shes taking away all my friends. Noone wants to hang out after school or the weekends, they make up stupid excuses. So i sit alone at home all the time now.  And at school i cant really be happy anymore. My mom asks me if i want to do something and i just say no.  I feel extremly depressed and that theres no point to life if i have no friends. i dont know what to do exccept wait for next year and a newer class with more people, but im scared nothing will change. Then theres still the summer and i really dont want to spend it alone. please tell me what i should do to have friends, it's like im an alien or something when im around them. thanks
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Edited: 5/20/2010 2:55 PM
Feeling alone is not a good feeling.  As we read through your e-mail it became clear that some of those things, you can change and some of them are cold hard facts!

You can change how you and your Mother get along and communicate.  When she asks you if you want to do something say "sure" and then do whatever comes to mind or is available.  If the two of you share experiences, it will improve your communication.  The more you talk about things, the more things you will feel comfortable talking about with her.

You cannot make your former friends become your friends again.  What you can do is to pursue some of your interests and hobbies.  That will occupy some of your summer, get you out of the house and put you in an environment where there are others with similar interests.
 
Something else to think about is that in order to have a good friend, you have to be one.  Make a list of the things that you look for in a friend and see how you match up to your own list.  We all have things that we can do to improve how we get along with others--come up with a couple of things that you can improve on and try it out with others!

Give these things a try and let us know how it goes.

Pat, Counselor
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