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Edited: 3/16/2010 12:04 PM by
Worried About Losing A Friend
Alright so recently I have had a lot going on in my life, not happy times. I met this guy who can make me laugh no matter what and he has been there to help me get through so much and I never thought he would be the person that could do that for me. For this to make sense in need to go back a little bit to my freshman year in high school... I had seen this guy who I thought was extremely cute and I liked him...ALOT. He was friends with one of my closet friends so I would always be around him but I never actually met him. I wanted to keep the fact that I liked him hush hush because he was a junior and I was only a freshman...my cover for the longest time was that I hated...well strongly disliked him as a person. and it worked everyone really thought I couldn’t stand him. This year we actually met, I was with my bestie and he introduced us. He said it was nice to meet me and he smiled. I acted like I was aggravated about being around him but really inside I was so happy that I finally officially met him! I had never seen him around school during the day I would really only see him sometimes after school. For some reason the next day I was walking to my second period and he came out of nowhere, asked me where my class was I told him and he said he was going to walk me and he did. While we were walking he invited me to hang out with him and some friends at a basketball game that night. I told him no but some how he convinced me and I gave in. When we were hanging out we got to talking and found out that we live right down the street from each other and we have for years but never knew it... small world. He took me home that night. The next day he gave me a ride to school. After that we started to hang out everyday and we got extremely close! One night after hanging out he took me home and before I got out of the car he kissed me. That night he called me and told me how much he liked me and stuff. I was so happy about it. For some reason I had a feeling that he had a girl friend. I never said anything though and maybe I should have...I never told anybody what happened that night either. Another day we were hanging out and he kissed me again and we made out and he gave me a hickey. So much happened because of that hickey. It was pretty bad so it wasn’t like I could have hidden it. Alot of my friends got mad because they didn’t know what had been going on. my friend who had introduced us was really mad at me and I had no idea why, but it turns out he did have a girlfriend! That’s why he was so upset with me because he cheated on her with me. After all of this had happened me and that guy decided that we couldn’t let it happen again. We are still really close and we still hang out all the time. He is one of my best friends now.  Its so hard though because when im around him I feel so awkward and I hate that feeling everything is in the past but for some reason I feel so...weird when Im around him. Even if there is other people with us. I really need help. I don’t know what to do to get rid of these feelings I really don’t want to lose him! It really seems like that is what is going to happen. HELP ME!
Edited: 3/16/2010 12:04 PM by
Good for you for reaching out for support!  It sounds like you have been struggling with this relationship for a long time.  It is difficult when relationships change.  You have to trust that if this friendship is meant to be, it will survive through the tension you are now experiencing.  Keep the lines of communication open with him.  As much as you can, try not to let others interfere. 

Take Care,

Julie, Crisis Counselor