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Edited: 3/4/2010 3:49 PM by
Stressed About Losing Him
he won't talk to me. he said he's not ready for this.. and i understand that, but i wish he would talk to me. he says he doesn't want to talk to anyone.. not even me.. the one he likes. he said he's done with the other girl. he's completely shut her out.. but i fear he'll shut me out too. i've had my heart broken too many times and i don't want it broken again. me and him have been friends since i was in kindergarden and he was in second grade. i fear that if i lose the relationship.. i'll lose the friendship too. keep in mind we're NOT going out. NOT dating. we had a few flings.. he said it was a bad idea for us to go out because i was dating his best friend back in december. so all kinds of drama would start. not to mention rumors.. rumors because well.. he's kind of the bad boy. he's a really good guy.. but he's bad with girls. he's not a virgin. not even close. his first time he was in 8th grade. and he's had sex a lot since then.. he's a sophomore now. i've thought about having sex.. but i'm only 13. that's just too damn young. he's tried things with me.. but i've stopped him. he knows when to stop and he would NEVER push me to do things. i'm just worried.. i don't want to lose him. i've lost too many people.. too many friends.. what do i do??
Edited: 3/4/2010 3:50 PM by

You should consider just being friends and nothing more at this time.  You will not feel as stressed if you stick to a,  " just friends " relationship.  When you are a few years older it will be easier for you to have a more serious type of a relationship.  There is nothing wrong with just being friends and nothing more than friends.  Talk to your male friend and explain to him you have decided to wait until you are older to have a boyfriend.  If he is someone who really cares about you he will support your decision. 

It's hard to go through these types of difficult situations.  It is great that you are able to reach out to talk about your problems.  You can also talk to those close to you who you trust; parents, close friends, or maybe a counselor or teacher at your school.  We are here to help you in any way that we can.  Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.

Take care,

Michelle, Crisis Counselor