It is so hard to watch someone you care about move on with their life.  We know that you want to be there for him, but you have to start doing things that are going help you to move forward.  You two were together for a long time and the fact that he can just move on so quickly has got to be difficult.  Remember, the longer you keep in contact with him and invest your time on him the harder it will be to move forward in your life.  We know you care about him, but what he is doing to you is not fair.  It seems that he is keeping you on the back burner in case things go poorly with this girl.  You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and only you.  

Time heals all wounds, but in order for you to move forward you are going to have to keep yourself busy.  It is critical that you do things you enjoy: hang out with friends, read, write, draw, music, exercise, volunteer, etc, so you can keep focused on yourself.  It is also important that you have a strong support network; friends, family, trusted adults, etc.  Another person that is good to talk to is your school counselor, they are available to help you through stressful situations.  Because you have been feeling depressed, you want to make sure that you are talking to someone about how you are feeling and your school counselor is the perfect person.  We know it is hard to talk to parents, but they are there to help you and cannot unless you let them know what is going on.  Parents want to help their children through hard times and give them the strength and tools they need. 

We are so glad you got in touch with us and hope that you continue to reach out for help.  You should be very proud of yourself for writing us your feelings and looking for help.  We are always here and if you need anything, do not hesitate to get in touch with us. 

Take Care,
Andria, Counselor