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Edited: 5/27/2010 4:11 PM by
Jobs and Relationships
I know you haven't heard from me in a while. I got a new e-mail and I been so busy i haven't been able to carve out time to chat. I think I have an idea as of to why I cant get a job, besides the fact of the bad economy. I have social anxiety. I get extremely nervous on interviews so i never call to set one up. I don't know how to deal with it though. And to add more to the stress one of my friends says that her and I are together now. I don't want to be with her I told her but she won't listen. She only said were together so I can take her places since she has no license. And just recently my ex-girlfriend wanted to get back together with me. She used me to cheat on somebody else with which hurt me. But I really want to be in a relationship. I don't know what to do.
Edited: 5/27/2010 4:12 PM by
Even though you are having a hard time setting up interviews, you have taken a huge step towards success in recognizing that anxiety is the issue.  Sometimes anxiety comes from the fear of not being prepared.  Look over your resume.  Update it if needed.  Call references if you have not talked to them in a while to tell them you are job hunting again.  Ask permission to list them as a reference again.  Set out interview clothes.  Practice answering interview questions in the mirror.  It may sound funny, but it helps to hear yourself talk.  Maybe for starters you could set up just 1 interview a day for the next week.  With each one you go to, it will get easier.

Sounds like girls are an issue too.  Do not force yourself into a relationship that you really are not interested in.  The best thing you can do is to be honest with yourself and the girls.  Tell her that you feel used when she always is looking for a ride from you.  Tell the other that you felt hurt when she cheated on you.  Everyone wants to feel loved, but it is better to not be in a romantic relationship at all then to be in an unhealthy one. 

Focus on yourself now.  Work hard to get some interviews scheduled and land a job.  Be sure you are taking care of yourself by adding a social activity you enjoy into your life and surrounding yourself with friends and family.  If you are happy with yourself, you will have more to offer that special someone you find.

Take care and best wishes with your job search.

Laura, Crisis Counselor