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Edited: 3/4/2010 3:51 PM by
He Cheated on Me
Ok so ive been dating this guy for 2 months now and i truely love him. he cheated on me with my best friend, we broke up and then i took him back. my family hates him, his parents wont let him stay at their house and he was staying at one of the motels in town but then all the hotels were booked last night so i dont know where he went and now hes not returning any of my text messages or calls...i dont know if hes lying to me and i just dont know wat i should do anymore...i dont want to talk to my family about this cuz they already hate him as it is...im trying to trust him again cuz i really do love him. do u hav any advice for me?
Edited: 3/4/2010 3:52 PM by
Thanks for taking the time to reach out to us at the hotline. It sounds like you are very worried about your boyfriend, and where he is at. Considering the past, it is understandable why you are concerned that he might be lying to you. Think to yourself, is there any reason why he would be lying right now? He did get refused to stay at his own parents house. So, could there be some conflict with them right now, and he is unable to get to the phone? If he wasn't able to stay at home, and had to stay somewhere else, is it possible he didn't have access to charge his phone? Consider all the possibilities, after all, he could be lying, and at the same time he might not be.

Trust is a huge part of a relationship. Without trust, it is hard to move forward. For example, if he cheated on you in the past, and you still do not trust him. How can you two move forward in the relationship? If you are not ready to completely forgive, and move forward, then that might be a clear indication that you two are not meant for one another. Forgiveness does not mean to totally forget what happened in the past, but it helps if we can not always assume the worst based off of the past. If you two want to build on the trust, there is always couples counseling available to help those out in situations similar to yours. Rest assured, you two are not the only couple in the world to have this problem. It is possible for things to get better, and to move past this.

Right now your family does not like your boyfriend, and understandably so. You are their child, and they love you. The fact that he hurt you, has made him move down on their scale. This situation can be temporary. Assuming that you two stay together, and that things get better, then he will start to build their trust. Once they trust that he loves you, then they will be able to be more accepting and supportive. Right now things may seem down, but they get better. Take a deep breath, and just get through today. Eventually he will call, and he will have some sort of explanation. Go with your gut feeling, and move in the direction you feel best. With or without him, you are still a young lady out there who deserves to be happy and treated fairly.

Best,
Mandi, Counselor