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Edited: 4/8/2010 1:54 PM by
Breakup Fallout
Hi. I just broke up with my boyfriend. And now my ex boyfriend won't stop calling me bad words. And he is upsetting me a lot. But I don't want to cuse him out. Because I care about him but I only see him as a friend. And he doesn't believe me that I am not trying to hurt him I am just tired of us going out. because I like someone else. What should I do? Or What should I tell him?
Edited: 4/8/2010 1:54 PM by
It is understandable that you are upset because your ex-boyfriend is calling you names.  It is not a very mature way for him to handle it.  It could mean that how he is handling his feelings of rejection and being hurt, is by trying to hurt you.  At your ages, it is best to just be friends because of the up and down emotions which can come into play when a relationship gets more serious. 

Friend or no friend, if what he is saying to you is rude and upsetting, you have the right to tell him to stop talking to you that way!  You don't have to cuss him out, just try to stay calm and let him know that you don't want him to talk negatively about you.  Your calmness and maturity might surprise him, and he may take it seriously.

It might be best to just wait before you tell him that you like someone else.  And, give it some time before you go out with someone new. 

Thanks again for reaching out, and thank you for sending in the nice photo of yourself! 
Take care and hope to hear from you soon!

Cynthia, Counselor