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Edited: 4/8/2010 1:58 PM by
Best Friend's Brother is Using
I recently found out that my best firend's brother is smoking pot and drinking. Our families are very close and they are like siblings to me. I was wondering if there is anything I can do to help them or encourage them. When he does it, it's not social or anything, he does it by himself when he feels stressed or really whenever he wants to. His parents can't control anything he does and they can't punish him, because he always threatens suicide. I really don't know what to tell my friend, she's really upset. I normally have all the answers and advice, but not this time. I'm most concerned about the youngest one in their family though (he's almost 7). He get's left home with the older brother (the one making all the trouble)and I'm afraid it will rub off on him. I know it's not really my business, but I just want to know what to say to my friend to help her. Thank you for your time.
Edited: 4/8/2010 1:59 PM by
First I would like to commend you on your loyalty to this family.  You are a great friend.  Having someone that is using drugs and alcohol can be very scary, especially while watching his little brother.  You mentioned that his parents are not able to control his behaviors, which can be difficult in its self.  If you are ever able to talk with him about why is he feeling so stressed about this may be helpful.  It is then you can direct him to a school counselor, an alateen support group, or even seeing a professional counselor.  As for his sister allowing her to talk about her fears and frustrations are very helpful, believe it or not.  Being a listening friend is a plus and always lucky to have.  You can also encourage her to talk with her school counselor for emotional support as well.  Again this family is very lucky to have you in there life.  Please don't feel it is your job to fix them, okay.  Give them the resources to get them some help.  You can also give them our number to speak to one of our counselors.  We are here 24/7 and ready to help.

Take care and thanks for reaching out.

PJF