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Edited: 4/8/2010 2:04 PM by
Absorbed in My Social Life
So i've seen your ad online earlier and i decided to give this a try.
Im 16 years old, currently a Junior in high school.
Im an awkward teen i guess you can say. Ive dated since i was in elementary! My first bf was in 4th grade. I guess my hormones grew pretty quick. But anyway! I wear glasses and im a little on the chubby side. I use to try so hard to fit in with people at my school. I have my own set of friends but i feel like theyre just not enough.
During the end of my sophomore year i moved to to stay with my aunts, uncles, grandma, cousins, my two older sisters and my older brother. My parents and my other older brother remained behind. I really liked it with my relatives. I had visited every summer. It was always a dream of mine to go back and live there and actually experience the school there. Finally i had my chance. But when i went to school there, i felt really unnoticed. Like i barely made any friends. So i got sad. early January i finally begged my parents to send me back and now i am back here. Ive been here since end of January. But sometimes i regret coming back because i really do feel lonely without all my cousins and my siblings. Yeah my older brother is here too but its not the same.
Anyway, since the summer last year, i wore contacts. I only wear my glasses at home now. I use to be insecure about how i would look without my glasses since ive had them since 3rd grade! But i didnt look that different after all. So when i got back to school here, i realized that people who havent taken notice of me before have started to! I guess you can say im not one of the 'popular' well-know kid at school that everyone wants to hang with. Most of the school knows me though. But yea now im getting noticed by the more well-known people and im a bit overwhelmed.
Since i got back this one kid has been talking to me. Hes one of the well-known people. Hes a junior also. We would text each other and talk on the phone all day. This went on for about a week or so and finally he asked me out. Not knowing what i really felt i said yes. And while we were dating, i met a new friend who happens to be a guy. And hes a freshman. For some reason i felt more attracted to the first guy cause hes the same race as me. But at the same time i was also attracted to the second guy cause i like the way he dresses how he talks and the fact that he drives. 
So i felt really insecure with the second guy. Cause i feel like i dont belong with him. I find myself unattractive. And plus im not in the same 'click' as him. His ex was a cheerleader. I dont cheer. I dont do anything. How can i compare to her? Not to mention, shes one of my friend too. We're not really close but we do talk. So that added on as a guilty conscience. When they dated, she got along with all his friends and she perfectly fitted in. But i dont talk to any of his friends and i know he doesnt talk to any of mine. I felt like we were so different. So i ended it after 2 weeks, saying that i didnt want to be in a relationship at the moment.
Its been a month now and we still talk cause he does still like me. So does the others guy. And recently i met a new guy friend and he likes me and then this OTHER kid started talking to me too.
Sometimes i feel like i shouldnt have a relationship right now but i feel sad when i see couples together. I get jealous but when i do have one, i dont commit myself.
I think im not putting my all in a relationship because i do feel like im just being played with cause im 'easy'. I do think im ugly and  i do find myself annoying. So i dont understand how they can like me when i can barely like myself.
Also, im getting lazy with my school work now. I feel like im too absorbed in this social life that i dont care about my education. Im still getting good grades but even my friends say that i care more about who i talk to than the school work i do. Im slacking off and i know its not good.
What is wrong with me?
Thanks for taking the time to read this though.

Edited: 4/8/2010 2:04 PM by
Thanks for writing in.  This is a great place to share your feelings and ask questions.
It is not unusual for you to be reluctant to make any kind of a commitment to a relationship at your age.  Your life is moving forward and you never know where you will end up or who you will end up with.
It seems better to spend some time thinking about the qualities you look for in a guy.  Perhaps, the way he dresses, the comfort at which you can talk with him, if he gets along with your friends and introduces and includes you with his.  You may value good manners, honesty, academic ability or athletic skills. As you get to know him, you may want to know if he cares about his family and what his spiritual values are.
It is things like this that will help you feel more comfortable and confident when you do choose to make a commitment to a relationship. 
You mentioned having a reputation of being "easy".  Hopefully that doesn't mean in a sexual way.  That is not a good reputation for anyone to have.  It is not healthy physically or emotionally and extremely damaging to your self-confidence and self-image.
Stay in touch and let us know how you are doing.
 
Pat, Counselor