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Edited: 2/9/2012 12:12 PM by
Will We Get Back Together

We were together for three months. He said he loved me, and I knew for a fact that I was the first person he had said that too. I was, and still am, head over heels for him. I really did think it was going to be forever because we were each others best friends too until he left to go see his dad & sister.

He was there for about 2 and a half weeks. He texted me a few times, but my ipod was dead, and I wasn't able to text him back. That was during winter break, and then when we started school again. He was acting weird. I kept quiet about it until later that day. One of my friends came up to me & said that he told her he was thinking about breaking up with me.

She said, that he had said he had to much on his mind. Later on that day my best friend found out and confronted him. She told him that he needed to say it to me instead of my friend. He did. He pulled me aside, and said " I'm breaking up with you. I really like you  a lot. But, I don't want you to think I'm mad at you, because I'm not.

I still like you. But, I've got a lot on my mind, and a lot of things are going on but, I still like you and I will still talk to you and text you and stuff." Then he hugged me, and I smiled and he did too.

But, honestly, it is tearing me apart. This was like 3 days ago. So, I guess I'm asking you guys to answer some questions for me will we get back together ? ( from the information I gave you. ) or, should I move on ? please, PLEASE help.

Edited: 2/9/2012 12:13 PM by

We are sorry to hear about your break up. It sounds like he has a lot on his plate and doesn't feel like he is in a place where he can commit to a relationship. It sounds like it was hard for him to do this, but it was the right thing for him to do. We are sorry that you are so broken up about it.

The question of whether you will get back together or not is one that can be all consuming and take over your life. If you keep asking yourself that, you will continue to have feelings for him and continue to wait for him. When you do this you continually set yourself up for pain and rejection because you keep looking for the answer to your question. What is best to do for yourself in these situations is to send yourself the message that you will not be with him again so that you can move on instead of sitting around waiting.

This can be especially hard if you continue your friendship because being around him will continue to bring up your feelings for him. It is nearly impossible to maintain a healthy friendship with somebody who you have more than friendly feelings for. You may have to inform him you are going to keep some distance so that you can reestablish a friendship with him later without the baggage of the romantic feelings. If he is a true friend, he will understand.

Move on for now with no expectations of going back, these expectations will only hinder you, frustrate you and effect all of your other relationships as well. Please take care!

Counselor, Dominic