Sorry for taking a little while to get back to you. We've been having some problems with our internet the past couple days and had a bit of a delay in receiving some emails...thanks for being patient!

You're right, that really is confusing. Definitely sounds like he was saying and doing things to make you feel like he had feelings for you that were "more than just friends." Its also really awesome that had the courage and confidence to tell him how you felt... a lot of people would've been too scared to actually take that step. You were able to open up to him, and that is such a great skill to have. We know that it might not have worked out the way you would've wanted it to, but please don't let this one occasion stop you from opening up to people in the future. That's a really cool skill to have!

It sounds like this guy is confused. He was doing things and saying stuff that really made it seem like he liked you, but when you opened up to him he shied away. Maybe he doesn't know what he wants, or maybe being affectionate is just his personality. Have you ever asked other girls he is friends with if he talks to them the same way he talks to you? Maybe that's just the way he is. If so, you gotta ask yourself if you are going to be comfortable continuing to be friends with him. If he keeps talking to you like that you need to remember not to lead yourself on, since you know how he feels. At the same time, you might feel a bit awkward around him after expressing your feelings.

If you feel like that's going to affect the friendship then it might be a good idea to keep some distance for a while, until you feel like you are ready to go back to a plain old friendship with him, and nothing more. The feelings you have for him will definitely pass, and putting some space between the two of you for a while will make it much easier on yourself.

Hang in there!

Abe, Counselor