We're glad you found our website and decided to write to us today. The fact that you care about your boyfriend and value your relationship with him is great and shows us that you are understanding. However it also sounds like he's not making very good choices for himself right now. We're glad that you see a problem with the decisions he is making because that tells us you know they are wrong. Have you talked to him about the way you feel?
You have to know what is acceptable to you in a relationship and what's not. If he's doing things that you don't agree with he needs to know. That way he either makes the choice to change or risk losing a relationship with you.
Good luck with this,
Stephanie, Crisis Counselor