Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out this evening. Relationships are as confusing as they are exciting. With so many emotions involved, it can be really easy to let them get the best of you and make an irrational decision or do something you later regret. It really sounds like the two of you are confused right now and are unsure about which direction you want to head in right now. We know this is probably an upsetting time for you, so you are really showing a lot of composure and maturity by taking the time to send an e-mail and make a good decision.
You can't just pick up right where you left off; break ups don't work that way and far too much time has passed. The best thing to do right now is open up to him about how you feel. While we encourage you to do this face-to-face, you could also do it over the phone or through a letter. Don't do the whole thing over Facebook or anything, because texting or Facebook just don't have the same effect as a face-to-face conversation. Most of the way somebody interprets what we say is in our body language and voice tone, all of which are lost when communicating through technology.
Talk to this boy and let him know how you feel. If he feels the same way, you should really resist the urge to go right into a relationship. Start off slow, hang out with some friends together and build back up the trust, respect, and commitment you had for each other and which healthy relationships are built upon. Then, start hanging out together going on dates and stuff. Then when you really feel like you've started to click again would be a good time to get back into a relationship with each other. Allowing yourselves the chance to ease back into the relationship will make it much easier on your emotions than just jumping face first right into a relationship like nothing had changed. Because there have been changes, and you need to make sure that you two can click and get back to where you were before the break up.
If you open up to him and he doesn't feel the same way, that is okay. We know it will hurt your feelings, but you really can move on. It probably won't feel like it right away, but the hurt of being rejected does go away. Spending time with friends, talking about your feelings, and doing things you enjoy can all help ease the pain. Please don't feel like this is the only guy out there who will make you happy, because he definitely isn't.
Keep in touch,
Abe, Counselor