He Doesn't Care About Things I Say
I am dating a guy I have been dating for 4 months now. He was the greatest guy I've met, and I always thought we would be together for a long time. Lately, I have noticed that he has changed. He's not who he used to be. His jokes, and the way he acts is different.
He'll do absolutely anything for me, and I do believe that he loves me, but I worry sometimes. He has a lot of friends that are girls at school. I tell him how I feel all the time, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't care about things I say. I'm so confused. I need some help.
Glad you chose to reach out and talk about your relationship with your friend. You mentioned that he is not the person he used to be. His jokes are different and he has a lot of friends both girls and boys. It sounds like due to his recent behavior you are feeling unsure of who he is becoming. The good news is you still believe he cares for you and would do anything he can for you.
People change during their teenage years and sometimes dramatically in a short period of time. It's part of growing into their own sense of identity. Sometimes they try on behaviors, attitudes and/or beliefs of other people out of interest. As they see how other people live they decide if that is part of who they are or not. Sort of walking a mile in another person's shoes.
As a friend of his you might give him some gentle feedback as he tries on these new interests or attitudes. Imagine going to the men's store with him and he's trying on different shirts. Some look good on him and some don't. Imagine him asking you; "Does this look good on me"?
Give him your honest opinion. Does his new sense of humor look good on him? Are some of the people he hangs out with good for him? If you would like more help with this question or if you have another question in the future you are welcome to contact us again.