The best thing you can do is be straightforward and honest. Think about what you want to say before you say it, maybe even practice with your friend first. You want to be kind but honest. If he is a real friend then he will respect your wishes and understand. If he responds badly then you will know if he would be capable of respecting your desires. You could say something to the affect, "I care about you as a friend.

I don't want our friendship to end, in fact I was thinking about asking you to prom, as friends, but I didn't want to give you the wrong idea or lead you on. I think you're an awesome person but I only see you as a friend." If him being affectionate towards you makes you uncomfortable then you have every right to let it be known, of course it would be better if you did it nicely but if he doesn't stop then you might have to be more blunt about it.

You might want to first try using body language by moving away from him when he rubs your back. If he doesn't seem to get the hint that way, then you should say something about it.

Honesty and kindness are your best bet. Let us know how things turn out and we wish you all the best!

Sincerely,

Jessica, Counselor