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Edited: 10/27/2011 10:47 AM by
So Depressed

I'm 90% sure I have depression. I cry SO MUCH MORE than before. Everything hurts me (emotionally) I took up cutting again, but I don't think it is serious since I only did it once and regretted it later. I feel really, really alone and I'm losing friends and just a lot of things. Feel free to ask questions, it's easier for me to answer a question than just speak openly.

I was recently cyber attacked, but it was sort of my fault. Either way, I had a huge blowout with school and they were going to let me come back, but my mom pulled me out. Now that I'm homeschooled, I'm DEPENDENT on my friends and I realize how much time I have to feel lonely without them. But after awhile, it wasn't even about home school. My friends did NOT care about me.

I lost a lot of them recently, I've had trouble making new friends, and even though there are nice people I can talk to, I just can't be bothered to stick with it, and I know that if they got to know me it wouldn't work out. I absolutely hate being alone I can't work. I started out kind of strong, and now I'm 3 days behind in my home school and still can't do it...argh! Just, please email me back

Edited: 10/27/2011 10:47 AM by

We're sorry to hear about all the stress you've experienced recently with school. This might be why you're crying a lot more. You've been dealing with cyber-attacks, your routine was changed dramatically when you switched to homeschooling, and you've lost sudden, dramatic contact with your friends. A lot has happened in a pretty short period of time, and that can cause you to feel all kinds of things.

It looks like you have two things that are really troubling you: 1) homeschooling just isn't working well for you, and 2) your withdrawal from your friends has really affected you. There are all kinds of things to consider here. For example, the loss of regular contact with your friends might have made you sad, and the sadness is what's making you unable to focus on your schoolwork. We don't know for sure, so you might want to put some thought into everything. A little analysis can help you straighten things out a lot quicker.

Let's see if we can come up with some options, though, for these two problems:

1) School:

- Right now, you're three days behind, so make sure you get help from your mother or someone in the homeschooling program. Tell them you're dealing with rough emotions, you're running slow, and you need help catching up.

- Ask for advice. Explain to your mom, for instance, that you think working alone is exceptionally hard on you. Don't just complain about it, but follow up with questions, like, "How can I get past this?" or "What would you do?"

- You and your mom could always contact the school district if you get really behind and ask them if there are other options for you.

2) Friends:

- See if the school would allow you to come back for after-school activities. Then you'd at least be in regular contact with some of your classmates.

- Try to set up time to spend with your friends on the weekends.

- Join other clubs or activities in the community just so you get out amongst other kids your age.

You may also find comfort in writing. Think about journaling about what you're feeling. Keeping a journal will help you sort out what it is that's bothering you, and that will help you find a solution. Let your mom know about this sadness you're feeling, too. Ask her what you should do. For problems like these, asking for advice from people in your community or your family are good ways to get started.

Good luck!

Kate, Counselor
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