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Edited: 5/15/2012 9:47 AM by
More Of My Problem Than His

I feel like he’s not attracted to me. Like I'm not good enough for him and he's too out of my league. I feel like I’ll never meet his standards, even though he's told me a million times that I’m just the girl he's been looking for. It’s my own self esteem getting in the way.

 
I know, but how do you fix a thing like that? I’ve been with him for 6 months and this feels like a pretty consistent problem. I’ve talked to him about it a little, but I feel like it's more of a problem within my own thoughts rather than anything he's doing wrong. 
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Edited: 5/15/2012 9:48 AM by

There are a lot of people, adults as well as teenagers, who deal with low self esteem. It's great that you are able to recognize this and are looking for ways to increase your self esteem! Taking time to build healthy relationships with friends, both male and female, is important. By healthy, I mean, spending time with groups of friends, maybe going for a run or playing a sport together. This summer, when you have extra time, try to find a volunteer job in your community or offer to babysit. You'll be amazed how good it makes you feel when you're helping other people.

 
On the internet, there are tons of articles to read on ways to boost self esteem. They offer excellent ideas- take the time to read some when you get a chance.
We know that teens like to be in relationships, however, it's ok to be on your own and not involved with a guy. We're all equal and no one is "better " than you- trust me, he's not "out of your league." If you continue to feel like that, maybe it's best to stop seeing him because it could damage your self esteem further. 
 
Sometimes, when you are spending time with family and your girlfriends, you might find out you're happier because you can be yourself !  Keep working doing things to build your self esteem- you'll get there!!!  
 
Hopefully we've helped you today and in the past. Stay in touch and take good care of yourself.
 
Sharon,

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