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Edited: 5/20/2010 2:12 PM
Dealing With A Deceased Parent
my moms birthday is tomorrrow but she passed away 3 weeks ago.... i dont want to go to school and have people see me upset or ask a million questions. this has been the hardest 3 weeks of my life and i am at a point where it is getting to me sooo much that i just cant take it no more... i tryed writing notes like one of the counslers said but that is not working ...what do i do????
Edited: 5/20/2010 2:12 PM
It is so great that you are reaching out.  I am so sorry that you lost your mother.  When you come upon important days like her birthday, celebrate!!  Celebrate her life with your family.  Make a cake, buy flowers or you could send a balloon up into the sky to her.  Whatever you would like to do.  Take time to talk to someone at school about how you are feeling.  I am sure your friends will understand why you are upset.  It is okay to express it.  Talking about your feelings is hard at this time in your grief but part of working through it is talking...talking a lot. It works.

Going on with your life can be very difficult when you are hurting so badly.  Just know that with time your hurt will get better.  It never fully goes away but trust that it will get better. Continue writing to her or just write.  It is healthy.  Talk out loud to her when you can.  Acknowledge her life. 

You sent us your phone number, would you like us to call you?  Are you feeling like you might hurt yourself because of your pain? Are you having any thoughts of suicide?  What are you feeling?  Let us know and we can help. 

Take care and we hope to hear what you did to celebrate your mother's birthday.

Naina, Counselor